April 21-22, 2022


Zoom Link:

Meeting ID: 834 8312 9965
Passcode: 768768

9-11 am and 1-3 pm each day
(Mountain time)


Between Dreams

The Paradox of Letting Go

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need. By yielding I endure. When I give of myself, I become more. When I feel most destroyed, I am about to grow. When I desire nothing, a great deal comes to me. When I give up trying to impress others, I become impressive. My best work is done when I forget my point of view. When I turn to embrace resistance, I encounter no resistance. The less I make of myself the more I am.

( From The Tao of Leadership, by John Heider )

Sometimes, the only option is to surrender. In the eastern traditions there is a critical period in our lives when we are most opened to deeper spiritual growth. This period is called Between Dreams, where an invisible through-line holding our lives together is found. It is not a place most of would choose to visit, since the entryway is often a significant disruption of an old dream of life. For some, the war in Ukraine serves as this disruption. Completely useless, a violent theft of lives for no worthwhile reason. There are other doorways, some are external but many are internal. We are called to move through these passage ways many times even when we have lost even the energy or hope for a new dream.

Between Dream times surprise us. Loss of work, or new and different work. Loss of health, fractured relationships. Financial constraints. Political opposition and deception strategies which entangle us in fear. All of these and more are openings to the Between Dreams landscape. In our panic we try to go back to sleep, back to the old dream. The great masters, however, say the best way forward is to stand still and allow a new and larger dream to emerge and take shape. This is a time to trust in the paradoxical forces always in play, yet seldom noticed.

This is the wisdom of the feminine: let go in order to achieve. Wise leaders demonstrate this” (John Heider).

Between Dreams can be deeply disorienting. Standing still as a way to move forward? In the center of anger and rage we find joy? Coming to know the path forward by embracing the unknown? Doing nothing, apparently, and finding everything essential gets done. Our plans go dark and we find intuitive guidance suddenly there. We let go of our fear and need to please others and discover a deep resolve, an unmovable center. When the lesser version of ourselves shows up uninvited we find, just beside it, our innate love, power and worthiness which have been present since the beginning. 

The invisible world of Between Dreams works very differently than the outer world. Actually, we belong to both worlds and both worlds call us. Our work is to hear and surrender to the invitation when it arrives. And trust its wisdom.

Please plan to join us for our Spring gathering of the Refiners’ Playground. We are eager to be with you again. Also note, that we hope to return to in-person gatherings beginning with the July 2022 session. We hope to build in a virtual capacity as well. Per this invitation, we currently have no idea how we will do this as neither of the venues we have used in the past are available. We have no cameras either. We are between dreams. Hopefully, the red wine supply will see us through.  Stay tuned.


April 21-22, 2022 virtually



We are an open community of spiritual explorers who meet on a quarterly basis to share our current learning, questions about and experiments on the nature of reality. In particular, we seek to know the True Self directly while examining all of the hilarious ways we try to be something other than this! Our two day retreats are typically attended by 18-20 people from around the country. The dialogue is rich, at times profound, always compassionate and frequently hilarious. Come as frequently as you like and stay for as long as you like.


We meet in groups that range from 18-20 people. We share our stories of what we understand through direct experience and/or are currently learning through our own active experiments on the nature of being. There are no long-winded speeches or dazzling intellectual discourses. We tend not to agree or disagree with each other and seldom give others advice. We have no front of the room instructors or teachers as we all serve this role. We find that when we share our experiences with one another, as co-explorers- we each become more clear and confident about taking our next steps.


People who most benefit from the "Playground" are those who have:

A life long yearning to know what is true about themselves and the universe.

Grown tired of the typical self-help menu with its implied assumption there is some "defect" in us that requires improvement.

Believed more licenses, degrees or certifications will leave them finally and forever feeling "enough".

Many years' experience feeling alone, judged, misunderstood and have simply grown tired of this. And even more tired at having contributed to or led the charge themselves!

If you have experience with any of the above, welcome to the club! You will likely enjoy the solid food of the "Playground". The hard truth is that no amount of suffering or achievement can satisfy the deeper longing tugging at our soul. Our secret desire is wholeness and only our essential nature knows how to weave the fragments we present it into a coherent whole. Our hard work and effort to fix ourselves usually make matters worse, or at least continues the entertainment.

There is another way.


You are welcomed to come for as many sessions as you like and can leave whenever you like. Regardless of how much experience you have with deeper work, you will likely find in the Refiner's Playground a quality of dialogue and loving presence unlike anything you have ever experienced before.


$695 per session (includes breakfast and lunch). $2,495 when you sign up for the next four events. A savings of $285!

Bring a family member, partner, significant other at no additional cost!

Your Trusted Guides

The Refiner's Playground is:

“Time to lay down the armaments we use to fix ourselves and to come home. There is an un-changing center within us that isn’t concerned with anything other than NOW. I often see and recognize the Essential that lurks beneath those moments we naturally resist. I speak directly to it and am learning how to move with it and allow it more play in myself and in us. I am here to usher in an intimate, liberating partnership with the Essential in each all of us! We ARE this!”       - Dan Holden

The Refiner's Playground offers us:

“A unique opportunity to embrace the perfection each life experience offers in burning away the dross of our deluded self perceptions, allowing the true, infinite, essential beings that we are to find fuller creative expression now. I am here to playfully master the art of finding, mining and refining the very best in us, allowing it to creatively express itself in response to the perfect challenge or opportunity that presents itself in each moment.”                                                         - Jim Anderson